Did anyone watch Dr. Phil the other day? I don’t watch it every day because my hunni can’t stand him, but when I saw a commercial about a 10 year old wanting to get plastic surgery I decided to take a break from the computer and go in the other room to watch it. If I were at my computer while watching it, my fingers would have written a book. I was appalled.
A ten year old girl wanted plastic surgery to look more like Miley Cyrus. I also want to point out that the picture they kept putting up of Miley was of her well into her teen’s. How can you compare a teenage body to a ten year old’s? Might I also add that a 10 year old’s body hasn’t even finished growing, much less a teen’s?
I also noticed that every time Dr. Phil asked the little girl a question, she would trail off and her mom would step in to answer. Her mom explained that if 3 girls go into an interview, one gorgeous, one pretty, and one ugly, the gorgeous girl will always get hired and, since she wanted to supply her daughter with everything she needed to succeed in life, she didn’t see a problem with her daughter’s requests for freckle removal, botox, or plastic surgery.
I kind of understand where she’s coming from. I don’t want to say that “pretty people” get treated different and seem to succeed more, but it almost seems that way because of child beauty pageants, models, TV shows etc. And that’s not right. And it’s certainly not ok for parents to support that and teach their children that looks will get them ahead in life. Children take things so literally.
When my niece was around 11, I sat her down and had a talk with her about what she eats, and how unhealthy it is to be eating 2 of everything. I told her food is good in moderation. “We have to be careful what we eat or we can get fat”. A few days later, when I asked her to write in her daily sketchbook, 3 things she likes about herself and 3 things she wants to change, one thing she said was that she wished she wasn’t fat. I immediately felt guilty. I never said she was fat, and although I approached the situation with caution, she still misunderstood me and took what I’d said literally.
With advertisements, media, and people making it seem like popularity and being beautiful is the most important thing, parents should be promoting the inner beauty. What happened to “everyone is beautiful just the way god made them”? This is what we should be teaching children instead of trying to rush them into growing up and throwing them at the cosmetic tables. This is a good example to help parents realize that children really do look up to them for guidance and to help them avoid getting caught up in the hype of media and appearances that they are barraged with every day.
A prime example of this is Lil Lohan’s new appearance. I don’t know about you, but I thought she was pretty BEFORE the surgery.
What do you think about children having plastic surgery or botox to improve their appearance? What do you think are some ways that we can help our children to learn to love themselves as they are?